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Dearest Sandi, This was a sad note to find. I know how much you loved Kris. She was such a good dog. Your heart is breaking and I understand. Go on out to Q and let the Forum ladies give you big hugs. My heart is with you. Lyn

Excellent advice from Donna about taking a different route and stopping at different places. And yes, go to Q. Your Forum friends will help you there as we will here. {{{HUGS}}} Sandi.

So sorry for your loss Sandi. I like the idea of taking another route also. Life goes on. Sending HUGS to you and your Abby. Linda

I am so lost without Krissi. I suppose people will think I'm crazy, but she's been all I've had for moral support since my daughter has caused me so much pain. I knew I depended on Krissi but I'm finding just how much that was. I found out yesterday my daughter and family were in Death Valley. They never told me. Would have been nice to know so the grandkids could tell me what they saw. Having Krissi would have helped, but without her I feel so alone. I almost decided to head for home yesterday and forget the Lake Havasu Balloon Festival and the GTG in Q. I'm in Tucson now and trying to hold it together. I don't think it would be so bad if my daughter would at least like and care about me. Just can't figure out why she treats me the way she does. I guess I'm a weak person if I have to depend on a dog for moral support but that's how it is.

I found out about Death Valley when my granddaughter texted me for the first time. I later texted my daughter that it made me feel bad that she didn't share what she and the grandkids were doing. Probably shouldn't have done that but I told her in the hope she might change. Now I'm afraid she may have told my GD she can't text me anymore. What a mess.

Oh Sandi I am so very sorry.

sandi, it's too bad your daughter is that way but you cannot change her. Only she can. So quit giving her the ammunition to use against her. Quit crawling and groveling.

WickedLady wrote:sandi, it's too bad your daughter is that way but you cannot change her. Only she can. So quit giving her the ammunition to use against her. Quit crawling and groveling.

Do you have grandchildren Marda? It's easy to cut out the daughter, but that means the grandkids too. That's a hard decision to make.
Sandi

Dear Sandi, I am so sorry to hear that you are suffering so much grief. I hope you'll go on to Q and let all your friends be with you. You can go at your own pace, no matter how slow. Step by step you will get where you need to be, physically and emotionally. You're strong, so when the clouds lift, which they will, you'll see how much good you have in your life. It's OK that you can't see it now, in time you will. You can choose to be kind to yourself in each new moment no matter what it brings. You're in my prayers and the prayers of many others.

Big hugs,
Nikki

It is so hard to know what to say as I'm not in that position ....I am in contact with all of my kids although wish with some of them more
but it's not a feeling of them not liking me it's them being too busy to .... i say go to Q Sandi get involved I truly regret that I won't be there to
help you in some way...wish I was...but some times things are out of our control...it's too bad that your dd won't open up and say this is the way it
is mom and explain what her issues are because when they don't we tend make a mountain out of what what possibly was a mole hill...it's human nature...I sat tonight and worried because dd's x wanted to talk with her ...she didn't know why so I started worrying about was it cause Shadow barked at gd and scared her and he didn't want Shadow to be here when the girls were see what I'm saying we can make things become so much more important than it was...he just wanted to tell her that he and his last girl friend were dating again...nothing to do with Shadow... although I need to see what to do about his barking at some of the kids for no reason at all...
go and enjoy as best you can this time away from CA I am sure it's really hard when you are so sad and so upset anyway but try
sheila

I wish it was just a mole hill Sheila, but my problems with my daughter have been ongoing for close to 10 years. She has been making my life miserable all that time and this time is particularly hard occurring so close to losing Krissi. I suppose while it could seem like nothing to others, it's actually another layer added onto many other instances like how she blocked me from seeing my grandkids on Christmas morning a year ago until I apologized for simply telling her I was feeling worse about our relationship. She refuses to sit down and talk. I probably should refrain from posting about these problems because it's hard for someone not involved to understand the big picture. Sorry I chose to bring it up. I just wish Krissi was here. She always seemed to understand and always let me know I had the best friend possible.
Sandi

We don't have to understand the dynamics of your relationship with your daughter to feel your pain, Sandi. Sometimes sharing things with those who care helps make that pain more bearable. And we do care.

Sandi, sometimes just writing out your feelings so that others can read them is all you can do.

We will never completely understand your situation with your daughter, or the depth of your pain. But we can walk alongside you as you move forward, or sit down and rest. Even if we're not physically with you we can say a little prayer or send good thoughts your way.

Your Krissi was the world to you. I get that. My prayer for you is that you can rest in all of the love she's given you -- that's she's "deposited" in your feel-good bank. Take from that freely -- there's enough in there to last you for as long as you need it.

We're here. That's what's good about this place. You've been heard. That's what's good about this place, too.

Laura

Dear Sandi, you keep posting here as long as you wish. That is why this forum is such a good friend to us all. We all understand how much you miss Krissi.
We may not understand what goes on between you and the daughter, but you can let us know how much it hurts you. Wish I was in Q with you too.

Why not stop by San Diego when you do finally leave Q?!?! Santa Fe RV is a passport america park and it is close. Think about it. Love ya, lyn

So sorry Sandi. How about talking to Abby more? Not the same, but I bet that little girl is missing her best friend also.

And don't take our thoughts as thinking less of your pain and problems. We all are trying to, in any way, help, not hurt you more.

I hope that being out there and seeing and being with friends can, at least in some moments, lessen your pain. And I wish I could give your daughter a spanking!